September is Suicide Awareness Month, a time to remember that mental health is not just a medical concern—it’s a spiritual and relational one too. As parents and caregivers, we have a sacred calling to nurture not only our children’s bodies and souls but also their emotional well-being. One of the most powerful ways we can do this is by keeping open, safe conversations about feelings, struggles, and hope.
When children are little, begin weaving feelings into the family vocabulary. Ask questions like:
“How are you doing?”
“How are you feeling about school (or what’s going on with your friends)?”
When they share, avoid judgment or quick fixes. Instead, listen and validate. Try:
“It makes sense you feel that way.”
“What do you think might help?”
This builds trust and shows your child you value their inner world.
Suicide is never something to joke about. If a comment like that comes up, remind your child it’s serious and you’re always available to listen if they ever feel overwhelmed.
And don’t be afraid to ask clear, direct questions if you’re concerned:
“Have you had thoughts about wanting to escape?”
“Have you thought about hurting yourself?”
Asking directly won’t put the idea in their head—it shows them you care enough to face their pain with them.
If your teen shares something heavy, your first job is to stay calm. Big reactions—anger, panic, or dismissal—can shut down communication. Instead, try:
“You seem sad. I want to talk because I love you and care about what happens to you.”
“I’m sorry you’re really struggling. Can you share more?”
Even if you feel shocked or overwhelmed, set that aside in the moment so your child feels safe to keep talking.
Sometimes silence speaks louder than words. Watch for changes like:
These can all be red flags that your child is carrying more than they can handle alone.
Screens can connect kids to support—but they can also expose them to bullying, comparison, or harmful content. Keep an eye on their online world:
This isn’t about invading their space—it’s about protecting your child’s heart and mind.
If you believe your child may be thinking about suicide, take it seriously:
If there’s a concern about mental health, but not immediate danger of suicide, follow up with your child’s doctor, school counselor, or a therapist.
As Christians, we believe every child is precious in God’s eyes, created in His image, and deeply loved. When we respond with compassion, patience, and steady love, we reflect Christ’s heart to our children. Jesus invites us, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
Your calm presence, paired with God’s unfailing love, can open the door to healing and hope.
This week, take a few minutes to ask your child how they’re really doing. Keep devices out of bedrooms tonight. Pray with them before bed. Let them know you are a safe place, no matter what. These small steps can build a foundation of trust—and may one day make all the difference.
Jessie has a passion to walk with others on their journey towards mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Jessie has a Masters in Christian Counseling, and she has experience working with women, teens, families, and marriages. Jessie loves the outdoors, especially hiking in the mountains and canoeing. She is grateful to be living this incredible yet messy life with her husband of 26 years.
